Since Bruce died, I have heard the phrase "live in the moment" hundreds of times. How do you do that and plan for the future? How do you do that and make things happen? I believe in being proactive-trying to figure out and then get what I want. And at this point, I have some ideas about what I want.
It is funny (and I have commented on this previously), that life before Bruce died was like treading water. Sure there was some turbulence, but for the most part - my course was set or if it wasn't it-there was the team to deal with it. Now, I am steering the ship. I recognize that "living in the moment" means to appreciate being present to appreciate the now - throughly and mindfully concentrate and not be distracted. But I also need to pay attention to where I am heading.
Thinking ahead has helped me when the moment that I am living in - is horrible. My favorite expression: "This too shall pass"- kind of the opposite to being present. But can't I do both?
Maybe even bad times demand attention, however how do I keep hope present? Hope that my life will smooth out and the emotional ups and downs will calm. I can only look forward, and have faith that the future moments will be ones that I want to linger with.